“Mama said there'll be days like this, There'll be days like this my Mama said.” The Shirelles
Bad days are an inevitable part of life. Ask MDH (my dear husband). He broke the window out of our Bobcat for what seems like the gagillionth time the other day. I mean, seriously, if anybody knows of wholesale Bobcat windows, I’d be interested in buying them in bulk. But it gets better. When moving the kid’s merry-go-round (with the Bobcat, even though I told him that the tractor would be a better option), he broke the hinge off the door frame of the Bobcat. ALL the cuss words came out. I scolded him to watch his mouth in front of the kids. (I really do try.) They were off playing a ways away and he told me they didn’t even hear him, to which my five-year-old son replied, “Oh yeah, Dad. We heard all of them loud and clear,” and my three-year-old daughter said, “Stop saying cuss words, Dad.” We couldn’t even help but laugh. (Note: If you’re looking for good parenting advice, this is not the blog to visit.) Bless.
Anyways, to my point. Bad days are part of life. Bad moods are part of life. Sometimes, we just aren’t feelin’ it, and that’s okay. Forcing yourself to be happy and upbeat all the time is what one might call toxic positivity, and it’s not a healthy way to deal with emotions. It’s okay to be angry, sad, frustrated, etc. However, projecting your bad day or your bad mood on to others is not acceptable. You can be crabby without being a jerk. You can be frustrated without snapping at your family. You can be angry without going into a rage blackout. You can be sad without isolating yourself. Accept these emotions as a normal part of life, and learn to handle them in appropriate ways. And while you are doing that, let your loved ones be a part of the process. Model how to handle hard emotions with grace. This is a high level of emotional intelligence.
I hope you have a wonderful day, but if you don’t, embrace it for what it is, and show those around you how it should be handled appropriately.
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